Sick of Being Told to “Stay Positive”? Here’s Something More Useful

As a community, we’ve gone through a lot of changes in the last couple of months. These changes have affected our economy and most especially our businesses. But always remember, how you respond to the situation is what matters.

If you’re struggling to deal with your business and other aspects of your personal life, international keynote speaker Chris Helder introduces the power of useful belief. In this video, you’ll learn why positive thinking alone is not enough and how useful belief helps you achieve personal fulfilment and professional success.

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Here’s another clip explaining how you can practice useful belief in your life:

 
I look forward to hearing how you’ve applied the useful belief mindset in your life.

VIDEO TRANSCRIPTION

Beyond Positive Thinking
You know what I was at a Christmas party about three years ago and this guy walked up to me. I think he’s had a couple of drinks. He walked up to me and he looked at me and he said this, “Someone just told me you were a motivational speaker. Why don’t you say something right now to motivate me?”

He said that and I was like, “It doesn’t work like that, man.” “What do you, what do you do? Do you stand up in front of people with the American accent and just tell people to be positive? Is that what you do? Just be positive and be happy? Is that what you tell people?”

And I know what the guy was doing, he’s poking the bear. And I get it too because you know what, in the back of his mind, he’s probably asking the same question that you’re asking right now. Well, we get some American guy Dale, right? What’s he on about? And probably even more to the point, is there something new? Is there anything new? Or is he gonna get up there with his American accent and just tell people to be positive?

Well, I looked at the guy and I said this, “No, no, I don’t tell people to be positive.” Well, for one reason, positive thinking doesn’t work. I mean, not really not by itself. And not really, if you’ve been in a little bit of a rut over the last six days or the last six weeks or the last six months, and someone walked up to you and said, “Come on and be positive. Just chin up, man. Be positive, man. Be positive.” What would you want to do to them right now? Again, with the Business Blueprint violence, there it is.

Not only that, you know what I mean? Studies show this when you lay in bed in the morning, you go, “Come on Chris just be positive today. You can do it. Be positive, be positive.” That when something bad happens by 10 o’clock in the morning, and when you can’t sustain that level of positivity, you actually feel worse about yourself than when you started. “I can’t even do positive well.” And there it is. So instead, we start thinking about something better.

Anyway, I looked at the guy and I said this, “No, I don’t tell people to be positive, right? Instead, I talked about this word, useful.” Boom, that word right there is useful. Because if you have been in a rut the last six days or the last six weeks or the last six months, it’s not positive thinking that’s going to get you out of it. It’s useful action.

What’s the most useful thing for you to do to get from zero to two? What’s the most useful action in your life in your business to get from two to five? What’s the most useful thing for us to do to get from five to eight? And all of a sudden you will have criteria for exactly what it is that needs to get done.

Practice Useful Belief in Your Life
Question, how many people in this room have children just out of curiosity? Lots of Business Blueprint children.

Ah, now here we go, with all these children, how many people have ever been a part of this conversation? “I can’t believe kids today. I can’t believe these kids today with their stupid iPhones and their computer games.” When I was a kid, has anyone ever said that? “When I was a kid, we were real kids. We were outside. We had a bike and a bat and a ball. We were out. So we waited for momma to come outside and tell us it was time for dinner because we were outside kids that’s where we were.”

And you know what every now and again people ask me the question, “Chris, what do you think about kids today?” And I say this, “Well, I’ve got three boys. My boys are 17, 14 and 12. They’re my three favorite people on the planet. What do I think about kids today? I think this is the best time in the history of the world to be a kid. I think it’s the best time in the history of the world to be a parent. I think it is the best time in the history of the world to be a dad.”

Question, is that true or not? Yes, yes, not sure, no, no, yes. You know, I don’t know if it’s true or not at all. I’m not sure. I don’t know. But I know this, I know it’s a useful belief.

See truth by the way, is it true or not. Truth well I’ll tell you in a second. Truth, let me tell you about the truth for a second. Truth doesn’t really matter, I mean, not really, I mean, we get taught a lot of things that we’re supposed to be true.

I mean, I know this but when I believe it’s the best time ever in the history of the world to be a dad and an amazing thing happens, I’m a better dad. I’m actually dialed into the year 2018. I’m not focused on the Def Leppard concert that I went to in 1988. Instead, I’m actually thinking about being present right now, boom, 2018 and actually what’s happening in the moment I say useful belief.

By the way, let’s have just a little bit of fun with this. Here we go, this is the best time ever to be a parent. Well, that’s a useful belief. Here we go, how about this, this is the best time ever in the history of the world to be alive, true or untrue? Well, I don’t know if it’s true or not, but I know this, the telegraph tells me it’s not true.

But here’s the thing, well, you know what, it’s interesting when I believe it’s the best time ever in the history of the world to be alive, my brain goes and finds some beautiful things. I walk outside and I see things like trees and flowers and puppies and babies. Then I find beautiful things in the world. This is the best time ever in the history of the world being your industry. Best time ever in the history of the world to be in your business, true or untrue? Well, I don’t know if it’s true or not but I know this, when you believe it, opportunities are everywhere.

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